In this weeks black and white series, I’ve decided to talk about the law of attraction and how it saved my life. The reason being because for the past couple of weeks I’ve been telling a lot of folks about it and I figured it’s about time I went in depth regarding my experience with it. For those of you not familiar with the law of attraction aka LOA, in simple terms, it means you attract what you think. To quote Wikipedia, “the law of attraction is the belief that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts a person brings positive or negative experiences into their life”. Lately, I’ve been drawing a lot of inspiration from my old posts. I used to talk a lot about positive thinking and LOA. It made me miss those days. I plan on adopting that style of writing again because that’s more of who I am than just babbling on about style. My close friend Mimi, recently recommended a blogger by the name of Susan (from le-jolie blog) who shared her experience about LOA, and I couldn’t agree more with what she had to say. Right, let’s get to my story.A little over 5 years ago I was in a very bad place. A lot of things had happened that put me in a very negative headspace. The key ones were ending a relationship, the Home Office taking nearly a year to issue my work visa which not only meant I couldn’t work at the time but also meant I couldn’t leave the country, which led to me missing my only sister’s wedding. You kinda get the gist of what I was going through. I was very bitter with life in general and could almost say I reached an all time low. My close friend was generous enough to ask me to move in with her and her family while I tried to get back up on my feet. It was a very kind gesture, one that I am eternally grateful for. So when my tenancy was over in Birmingham, I packed up everything that I owned and moved to Manchester. It was hard waking up every morning and watching everyone around me go to work while all I could do was play the waiting game. I found myself binge watching YouTube beauty videos all day long just to pass time. It was a bit therapeutic, lol. Also I thought I should give dating a go and so I joined an online dating site (oasis.com). I remember my first week on there, I got chatting to this lovely gentleman who happened to be a motivational speaker. I told him how I was feeling and everything I had experienced in those past months. He proceeded to ask me if I had ever heard of the book ” The Secret”. My response was a resounding no because I wasn’t one to read, only when I had to sit an exam of some sort. He recommended that I read it and put it into practice. So, while trying to find the book online, I came across the documentary on YouTube, and opted for that instead.The key message from “The Secret” was LOA coupled with stories of the success people had experienced with it. It also shared how to go about putting it into practice. First be grateful, then ask with specificity, all in writing. I figured I had absolutely nothing to lose and everything to gain if it worked. And so I began writing. For gratitude, I wrote down things like being grateful for life and the wellbeing of my family and friends, for having a roof over my head, for coming across “The Secret” documentary etc. For the things I wanted, I wrote down things like the exact job title I wanted and in what industry as well as the exact salary, the Home Office reaching a positive decision on my work visa in the coming weeks, and finding love again.A couple of weeks later, I got contacted by another guy on the dating site who seemed to know exactly what he wanted and immediately asked for my number to ring me. I remember thinking, this guy is pretty bold. He did use his full name on the dating site which made it pretty easy for me to stalk him on Facebook. After I did so, lol, I concluded he was kinda decent. And so, I gave him my number and we got texting and speaking for a couple of weeks before going on our first date. I found out he was also into LOA and positive thinking. Bearing that in mind, I decided to make some additional “ridiculous” (or so I thought at the time) request just to test the power of LOA. I updated my journal and wrote down that I wanted to be engaged to this guy whom I had only known a few weeks within 3 months of meeting and married within 6 months, lmfao. Yep! That was my exact request. We met every day for some coffee since our first date. We went to the cinema a few times too because he loved the movies. I remember him asking me to be his girlfriend two weeks later and I said no as I was still getting to know him. A few more weeks later, which turned out to be his birthday, we made it official. We were now “boyfriend and girlfriend”. A couple of months into our relationship, he asked me to move in with him and I said yes. It looked like LOA was definitely in action. In fact, I was very certain of it. Just after 2 months of living together, he proposed to me at the movies which was were we had our first kiss. It happened exactly 4 months into our relationship, not quite the 3 months as I had written in my journal, but still, very close. We tied the knot 2 months later and have been married ever since. And that’s the story of how I met Craig.Still waiting for the Home Office to reach a decision on my work visa application, I found myself passing time watching reality TV shows. I was up-to-date with all The Real Housewives, a show which in hindsight was filled with quite a lot of negativity. During the commercial break of one of The Real Housewives, I came across an ad for a TV show called “Fashion Bloggers” and was very intrigued. The ladies featured in the show were photographers and bloggers too. It somehow struck a chord a with me and drove me to want to learn about photography. The good news is that I didn’t get stuck at home for very long. Some months down the line, I received my work visa in the post one very early morning. A few days later I went for a job interview and got the exact job I wanted, in the exact industry I wanted and my wage was very close to what I had written in my journal as the company offered me £400 more. How weird is that? I was floored at the results of my experience with LOA. My life had changed completely for the best within 6 months. What I did find though is that getting your request granted doesn’t mean you’ll be happy. But what can almost certainly lead to happiness is gratitude. I ended up not being happy in my job after a few years. I felt very uninspired. My blog and photography became a way for me to escape it all. As some of you already know, I quit that job in July this year to focus on my blog full time. It would seem that all the while when I thought I was sitting idol at home, encountering the TV show “Fashion Bloggers” was the main catalyst that led me to pursue the lifestyle I currently have. You could say I used LOA to also achieve this, as a blog post which I wrote back in May talked about the dream of doing the things I love someday in the not so distant future.They say “knowledge is power”, and I couldn’t agree more. Knowing and understanding the power of LOA has made me recondition my thinking in many circumstances to my benefit. Rather than focusing on the things I don’t want, I make a very conscious effort to focus on the things that I do want. Still, making sure to show gratitude along the way. So, if you ever find yourself at a point in time where absolutely nothing seems to be going well, I’d suggest you try out LOA. Just like me, you have absolutely nothing to lose and everything to gain if it does work. A lot can happen it 6 months, it did for me, for the better if I might add.***If you want to edit like me, you can! Get my Lightroom preset or grab a copy of my eBook here.***
Our Week In Black and White
We’re back again with another week in black and white. We have been pretty swamped shooting campaigns and meeting deadlines which has seen us lag a little behind on our own personal projects. We didn’t manage to vlog this week. Hopefully we’ll get back to it next week. We’ve decided another weekly content for the blog which will be a roundup of our Instagram posts. One advice I’ve always gotten from fellow bloggers is to build up your blog as it is a platform you own unlike social media platforms which you only have an account on and are owned by other organisations. We thought it’ll be wise to start archiving our Instagram posts on the blog especially now we’re posting a lot more.
This week has turned out to be a success. We got the most exciting news to work with a well known brand (we’ll share more details in future posts as we’re currently working on the project) which is our biggest break yet. Looking forward to telling you all about it, hopefully soon. One thing that was apparent from this news is that we made the right call when we decided to go down the road of working as a couple. We should have known to be honest as we seemed to get more engagement on our couple content. But this was actual validation that we were taking a step in the right direction. One of the biggest lessons we’ve learnt is to carry on doing what we do cause we seem to do it well. It’s funny how fear nearly consumed us from both pursing the move to full time blogging due to uncertainties. This serves as a gentle reminder to do the things you want to do anyway, even in the face of fear. To put it not so delicately, do it scared!
Thanks to a very good friend of mine, Lola, we’re now wiser when it comes to branding. She shared a lot in her eBook “The Branding Blueprint” (which is free to download on her blog) about how to define your brand as a blogger. A must read for anyone looking to carve their niche. We have began implementing some of the things she talked about. The key takeaway for us was to remember to just be us in the process as we are the key players.***If you want to edit like me, you can! Get my Lightroom preset or grab a copy of my eBook here.***