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I’ve always been a fan of Ray-Ban. Who isn’t? The brand has become a classic household name thanks to its iconic frames introduced into fashion in the 60s and the revolutionary ‘pop’ culture. Just until two years ago, I was the proud owner of at least four Ray-Ban sunglasses. Making sure I had different colours and designs that matched with a number of outfits was essential. As with anyone who  is  close with their siblings, you’ll find that they sometimes borrow items from you permanently, lol. This was how I came to lose my Ray-Ban collection. Since then, I’ve been on the look out for the perfect pair that would work with pretty much any outfit. It was a given that it had to be stylish and compliment the shape of my face. Thank goodness to the power of hashtags on social media, I was able to perform a search for Ray-Ban to see what shape of frames best suited folks with an oval shaped face. The RayBan 3447 Round Metal Sunglasses was a definite hit.

The best place to score these bad boys are from Sunglasses Shop who offer them at £33 lower than the recommended retail price at a whopping £92. Once it arrived in the post I couldn’t wait to wear it, hence why you’ve seen it flooding my Instagram timeline. I love how it has a retro vibe to it, giving it this rock ‘n’ roll feel with a touch of mainstream. It does a great job of protecting you from the sun (UV400 lenses) while looking effortlessly cool at the same time. The RayBan 3447 Round Metal Sunglasses is a must have accessory this season and any season as a matter of fact because I plan to rock them even in winter. Talk about making the most out of a statement piece!***If you want to edit like me, you can! Grab a copy of my eBook here.***

July 20, 2017
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When the sun comes out to play in Manchester, you have to be ready to soak it all in. The past couple of days have been good. Full of sunshine and extra pleasant folks. That’s what happens on a nice warm day. I was definitely ready to enjoy every but of it. Out came this lovely two piece set from Shein. Stripes are definitely in season, hence my choice of pattern. Also, the rope gives it the sea look which is something I love. I’m sure you’ve heard me talk about my dream white beach house, lol. The frills make for some character which is something I’m building on, hence my new look. Shein is a brand I recently heard of thanks to fellow blogger Patricia Bright. All the reviews I came across regarding the brand were quite positive. Having a browse on their website got me really excited. They’re a one stop shop for all the latest trend and their prices are reasonable. It’s always hard to tell the quality of a piece online. But when my order arrived in the post, I was super pleased with it. The quality was top notch. So much so that I ordered 3 more outfits which all happened to be stripes too, lol. Be sure to check out my Instagram as I plan to share more of my newly acquired outfits there. How are you loving my Striped Lace Up Smocked Cami And Ruffle Shorts Co-Ord from Shein?

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July 18, 2017
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This blog post is not my usual style of writing but a topic I think needs to be touched on as it forms part of my experience as a blogger. An African blogger to be precise. Everything I will be sharing is mostly based on my personal encounter which should give you some perspective into my life as a content creator. It’s very easy to look in from the outside and think all is well and rosy when the reality is somewhat otherwise. And I don’t blame you for having that perspective. You mostly get to see the glamorous side of being an influencer being flaunted all over the internet (don’t get me wrong, I too I’m guilty of this) but very little is shared about the struggles that come with it especially for someone like me. Before moving to England, I always had this notion that if I could “make it” a very western world, then I can make it anywhere. I guess somehow I was aware of the trying journey of succeeding in a foreign land however familiar it may seem from a distance.

I suppose this is where I do a full disclaimer stating that this post isn’t an attack on a particular group of people but merely highlighting some of my encounter.You have to work twice as hard 

If you’re very familiar with the TV show, Scandal, you should be aware of the famous scene where Olivia Pope‘s dad tells her quote on quote “You have to be twice as good as them to get half of what they have”. At first I didn’t get it and thought that was just dialogue appropriate at the time to have the effect he wanted on his daughter. Still, that scene stuck with me. For those of you who haven’t watched the show, a bit of context seems appropriate. Pope is a Washington, D.C.-based crisis manager who runs her own firm, Pope & Associates, that specializes in political situations. Fast forward two years later, I would begin to understand what Eli Pope meant. That was around the period I started taking my blog seriously but saw little or no growth with my engagement on all platforms. I remember telling myself “focus on improving and perfecting your skills and the rest will come”. Perhaps it wasn’t so much of a shocker as my subconscious mind almost expected this to be the case. I found myself having sleepless nights learning and practicing photography, and still do.

Putting out mediocre content will put you at the bottom of the pile and great content might get you in the acceptable league even though your work speaks for itself. The struggle is definitely real. If I had a penny for the amount of times people have said to me they think I deserve more followers because of the quality of my content, I’d probably be eating out every week.  No wonder there are so many avenues dedicated to promoting the work of black folks and people of colour alike. At first I didn’t want to engage with these platforms because I thought I would be limiting my audience which was a whole load of nonsense to think in the first place. I soon began to realise that these platforms are a safe space for people like me to grow and share knowledge. The benefits of being part of such communities is very rewarding and inspiring to say the very least. Very few friends 

I remember very well when I first started out blogging, I would tag everyone on Facebook I thought was my friend in my posts and would get little or no support from them. Sometimes they’ll remove themselves from the tags  or unfriend me altogether. I was quick to notice this and decided it was unfair to put that amount of pressure on the people I considered friends at the time. I got to realise that people closest to us sometimes don’t believe in our dreams as much as we do and this reflects in their reactions. The truth is I’ve managed to convince so many strangers while on this journey that my work is worth looking at and I couldn’t be much grateful. You’ll find that the people who doubted you the most want to get close to you when they think you’ve become a success. Only then will they openly admit to knowing you. It’s become apparent that in order to succeed in whatever you do, you have to surround yourself with the right energy and this includes people that push you towards your goals. I’ve slowly learnt to keep very few friends and that’s fine with me. I’ve heard quite a few people say the older you get, the less friends you tend to have. This is true for me and some of my friends alike. When you factor in the amount of hours needed for creating content, you’ll find that you can barely keep up with social engagements which results in a somewhat natural decline in the number of friends you have.

The entitled folks

I get the odd request from folks who don’t show any form of support towards my work send me private messages asking me to share my photography secrets which I imagine they’ll implement and shine even brighter than they already do. Very recently, I had a blogger in London with nearly 300k Instagram followers who followed exactly 0 people, message me to ask about my editing techniques which is no secret as I’ve found a way to share that knowledge in my eBook. I guess he wasn’t interested in purchasing it and might have thought I would be smitten by his online presence enough to give him this information because he asked. I did the sensible thing by ignoring his message. The interracial couple stigma

“She’s only successful because she’s with a white man”. Really? This is usually my reaction when I see this fallacy being hurled around the internet. The so called “interracial relationship” craze comes into play which puts less focus on my work as a content creator. I have received at least 50 emails and private messages criticising me for riding off the back of my “white husband”. The double standard really amazes me. Anyone who needs photography for their blog knows they have to rely on the support of family and friends to help get the shots every now and again. For a lot of bloggers I know this tends to be their partners or their spouse. So why does it matter in my case? What many folks don’t realise is that I and my husband work as a team. He takes most of my pictures when he’s available and when he’s not I shoot self portraits. I do all of the post production work. So how come when a fellow blogger like myself dates/marries from a similar background, who gets equal amount of support from her partner doesn’t get judged on that? I fear I will never really know the answer to this. The way I deal with it is to completely ignore these messages. After a while you can’t help but feel sorry for these folks.

Inclusion for the wrong reason 

You might also find that you get included in certain projects not by merit but because of your origin so they can demonstrate diversity. In those instances, taking advantage of the “disguised opportunity” as I like to call it, is a good way to show unsuspecting spectators the stuff you’ve been practicing behind closed doors. It’s a chance to gain respect for your work if you play to your strengths. I have been included in a couple of projects like these, without being very specific, I can say I did my best to go above and beyond. And the next time they consider me, I can almost certainly say it’s as a result of my work due to the offers they present my way.Love or hate

I’ve found that my biggest supporters are other Africans in diaspora. Maybe it’s because they have a sense of what it feels like to survive in a foreign country and perhaps relate to my journey. The amount of support and love I get from these folks is indescribable. I can tell by their names when I look at my eBook sales. However, this can be a love hate relationship. Some of these folks for some reason unbeknown to me do not like to see others succeed. They pick at everything you do. First they criticise your accent, then your mannerisms, and then they tell you why you’re not good enough as you do not represent their ideas of someone from their community Some even go as far as disowning you which I find very bizarre. I mean, how sad must your life be to want to make someone feel guilty for personal choices they’ve made in their lives that remotely has nothing to do with you? Maybe you folks can help me out with this one. My usual approach would be to ignore these folks. But sometimes I can’t help but think they need educating on certain matters.

 Awkward blogger events 

Being an introvert doesn’t quite help me here. I sometimes think that not growing up here and engaging in the social scenes makes me hold back at blogger events. It’s easier for me to connect with other foreigners because I fee like like we get each other just by sharing this one experience of living abroad. Sometimes I don’t attend altogether if no one I know is going. This can potentially hinder my growth and is something I have to overcome. I do not want to change who I am in the process. I just want to find a way to exist as my true self in a space where I can grow.

This has been my experience so far. I’d love to hear some of the things you folks also have to deal with behind the scenes as content creators and how you’ve overcome them.

July 3, 2017
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Off the shoulder pieces are my go to favourites this season. I didn’t know how much I actually wore them until a fellow blogger called me the queen of off the shoulder outfits. It didn’t take long for me to realise that I might have an obsession with anything off the shoulder. Sometimes I even find myself forcing some of my outfits to be off the shoulder. Thinking about it, it might boil down to showing some shoulder and neck. Two things that can add elegance to any look. It’s no wonder I’m subconsciously drawn to off the shoulder pieces. It has really got me thinking about sharing more of my style on my Youtube channel. I’m thinking of a style plan and I intend to work on it. Watch out folks!

In the spirit of embracing my off the shoulder queen title, I’m wearing a denim dress which are so in season as I’ve come across them in a number of high street brands. This one is by Misspap. Keeping it casual and chic, I’m wearing some comfy trainers adorned with embroidery. One of which has the symbol of Manchester; the worker bee. I like to think that I’m a free spirit hence my bohemian rings touch to compliment the look. I got these pieces from Bohomoon, a store I discovered online the other day on google when I typed in bohemian rings UK. They have quite the collection when in comes to Boho accessories. I think this look will work a carefree chilled day. What are some of the pieces you’re loving this season?

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June 4, 2017
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The most beautiful girl in the world; she wore her dreams on her wrist and like a charm she made them come true. She paid no mind to the naysayers. If she could see it, she could reach for it. She packed an almost empty suitcase not forgetting the two things she needed to store her memories – a journal and a really old camera. She sent postcards home and stamped it with kisses so that everyone would know she was fine even in the most trying of times. Seeing more of the world has opened her eyes to so many possibilities that made her dream even more.

Somehow she found herself in Manchester. A city whose symbol is the worker bee. It didn’t take long for her to become one. Off to the  nine to five she goes every weekday. But she must remember to live her passion afterwards. The night is full of work and she buzzes with excitement at the hopes of doing only the things she loves, until morning comes and she must work again. Not for long she says, as she dreams of the white house she’s always wanted by the beach with a boat to match. Something about sand in her shoes makes her feel grounded. And the wave of the ocean is like music to her soul. She rides the tides just as she knows how – dreaming that everything will be okay. After all, in this journey she found out more about herself, discovered her passion and fell in love all over again. Giving up is not an option. How else can she help the other girl who doesn’t know the strength she possesses within? The most beautiful girl in the world; she lives so that others can live, she loves so that others can love, and she dreams so that others can dream.

This blog post has been sponsored by Links of London, a luxury jewellery brand that allows you to create pieces that are personal to you. In this post I am wearing the Sweetie Sterling Silver & Diamond Pave Bead Bracelet personalised with the addition of three charms that hold meaning to me. The first being the Sterling Silver Postcard Charm, the second the Sterling Silver Bee Charm and the third the 18kt White Gold & Diamond Anchor of Hope Charm. I find that it helps to always have something that reminds you of the things that make you happy. That way it’s easy not to lose sight of it. I hope you’ve enjoyed reading this post. Let me know what charms you would go for and why if you were to personalise a bracelet.

May 8, 2017
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It feels like it’s been a while since I did a style post. I can definitely say spring has come around judging by the weather this past week. With much sunshine coupled with wind (as to be expected when living in Manchester) and parks  covered in petals of blossoms, I thought I’d share an outfit that will always be in season when it comes to spring. Pink is definitely the colour of spring as it elegantly matches the trees in bloom. Made with ruffles, the outfit tells a different story. Perhaps one that reminds me of my trip to Mexico where I saw beautiful ladies adorned in ruffles dancing with so much passion. It’s hard not to see life the same way – a dance of passion. I try to remind myself everyday that life is what I make of it. And so I ask myself ever so often, will my dance be remembered just as I recalled the dance from seven years ago or like smoke in the air will it be forgotten once the fire is out? I never hope for the latter. I try my best to keep the flame burning within where it is hard to quench. In my quest to stay alight, here I am adorned in pink ruffles and denim to match. A statement made to show spring just the stuff I’m made of. A great man once said “live your life with passion”. That, I intend to do.

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May 6, 2017
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I got the chance to try out the Glitzbox jewellery subscription service which is due to launch in May. This is in essence a jewellery loan service with an option to buy if you like it enough to keep it. As a jewellery lover myself, I  found it all very exciting. The best part of this service is that it is tailor made to meet your needs. How is this done? Upon subscription, you’re asked a series of questions which include imagery to help determine your taste in jewellery. Based on your responses, a jewellery box will put together for you by the Glitzbox team which adds an element of surprise. When I received my jewellery, I was quite pleased to see how well the pieces selected matched my taste. The box came with relevant information such as the details of the jewellery designers and timescales for returns and purchases. The beauty of it all is that you’re not tied to a contract and you can pause your subscriptions whenever you feel the need to which gives you a lot of flexibility. There are currently four subscription packages available, offering a variety of jewellery and benefits. To see the packages on offer, please visit the Glitzbox website.

In my box came some badass rock star earrings by Ros Millar Londona very leafy ring by Ivy + Mango, a bracelet by Mei-li Rose and one of my absolute favourites, an initial engraved ring and necklace by Crux London. Also included in the box was £30 worth of credit to purchase any piece if I so choose to. Depending on the subscription package you opt for, this can go up to £60, allowing you to invest in unique pieces. I am currently enjoying a very sunny break in Nigeria and these pieces have blended in very nicely with the aesthetics. I am very much looking forward to receiving my next GlitzboxAs you folks are always so lovely, Glitzbox are offering three of you £5 off your first subscription package when you use discount codes Mossonyi1, Mossonyi2 and Mossonyi3. Don’t forget to tag the Glitzbox team on social media when you receive your pieces.GLITZBOX JEWELLERY SUBSCRIPTION

April 21, 2017
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